The characteristic of a child develops based on the place in which the child grows up. The parent’s character can have a direct impact on the child’s nature. If a kid grows up under a narcissistic parent, it is most likely for the kid to turn out to be a narcissist. Here are the common effects that you may find in a kid growing under narcissistic parents.
The narcissistic parents may not always be abusive, but they may be very ignorant, may not even show patience to hear out the kid. Continuously going through such ignorance may put your kid in complete disappointment. It can gradually make the kid self-blame for the ignorance that the face of the parents. It will have a significant impact on their personality and moving forward, and they will always try to find blame in themselves for anything wrong that is happening around them.
Narcissistic parents create an environment that does not give much space to their kids. It can make the kids crumble and be the shadow of their parents. They may not be able to express any feelings nor have their opinions on anything. The kids who go through this kind of upbringing have more possibility to end up with very narcissistic partners.
Secure attachment is something that people need as an aid for emotional balance. Narcissistic parents may not provide their kids with a secure attachment but rather behave without any emotions, act negligently towards the kids, or are very abusive. It makes the kids feel very unsafe with a relationship. The kids who are brought up by narcissistic parents may grow up to individuals who have issues with relationships. They may either avoid attachment by not being ready for any committed relationship or may enter into anxious attachment in which they show desperation to be with someone. Both these extremes in a relationship are not right, and many end up in complete chaos.
Panic About Their Needs
The narcissistic parents bring up their kids with the feeling that having a need is a sin. It can make them feel very insecure when they have some needs. They feel scared when they have some needs. They always try to live without the need to ask anyone for help. However, when they go through any form of crisis, they may completely panic and may keep on going to their loved ones until the situation gets sorted. The ones who fear their needs may turn out to be very needy.
High Level Of Independence
Kids who grow up under narcissistic parents may gradually become either extremely detached or can turn out to be the ones who provide a lot of care and warmth. The complete detachment may make them live in full independence. Sensitive children may become selfless caretakers, and they would try to give away the care and the warmth they did not get.
Narcissistic: Premature Adulthood
The kids who are born under narcissistic parents may act like adults, even in their childhood. They may start focusing on the needs of the parents and later on their partners. They love to live their life on the happiness of others. Moreover, they feel that having their needs is selfishness.
Narcissistic: Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
People who are under narcissistic parents and undergo immense abuse may develop the condition of PTSD. PTSD makes them feel very anxious about things around them, and they usually look at life with a lot of fear. The people who are under this condition think about how to survive, and they may lack the ability to plan their future.
Growing up under narcissistic parents may even make the kids aggressive and narcissistic, just like their parents. However, narcissistic behavior is among kids who have a nasty temperament, and stubborn nature and their parents are narcissistics.