Self-Esteem And Narcissism In Children


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Praises work wonders in relationships. They work like grease on wheels. People either offer or receive praise in their daily interactions. Some people do not take praises excitedly or as a compliment, while others embrace acknowledgments with eagerness and pride. Parenting and praises go hand in hand. Parents tend to praise their children with the good intention of promoting their self-esteem, showing affection, and providing encouragement. But research shows that this whole procedure is not that straightforward. Praises can sometimes promote narcissism in children.

Self-Esteem And Narcissism In Children
Self-Esteem And Narcissism In Children

In other words, the plaudits that mothers and fathers lavishly impart on their kids can backfire.

Relation Between Narcissism In Children And Praises

There is a lot of difference between self-love and self-esteem when it comes to promoting the same in children. It would be fine for you to think that narcissism, to an extent, is having high self-esteem, but both narcissism and self-esteem are different when it comes to bringing up children.

Self-esteem helps in boosting proper mental health. It reduces depression and anxiety and helps in maintaining healthy relations. On the other hand, narcissism is harmful to the mental health of a child. Narcissism is overstated inflated and extreme self-esteem. It revolves around the notion that an individual is granderthan some other individual, and others are all substandard.

Narcissists are of the view that only they can be winners and no one else, while people with self-esteem make way for others to try out their hands-on becoming winners. Self-esteem revolves around the perception of being worthy as an individual and not about feeling grander than others. It is about equality in relations and in everything you do.

Is It There In Children Right From Birth?

Yes, narcissism does have a genetic element. You will find children in their pre-school years doing different things to seek attention. These children are highly active, and also they want to take center stage everywhere. Such children are emotionally unstable. They tend to get upset and angry when they do not get attention or anything that they might be looking for.

Since we are assuming that narcissism has a genetic element, it does not mean it is fixed. It gets shaped through social experiences. Parents who overpraise their children move on to create individuals with narcissist traits. Parents who consider their kids to be extraordinary and also unique individuals worthy of special treatment might make way for narcissist behavior.

Self-Esteem And Narcissism In Children
Self-Esteem And Narcissism In Children

Parents who overvalue their wards get into the habit of over claiming, overpraising, and also overestimating the abilities of their children. This pressurizes the children. With times and within such an environment, children might start thinking that they are more deserving and better than the others. Such children do not cooperate and work on things, but they always compete. They choose surroundings that strengthen narcissist traits.

Children who are self-confident about their abilities cannot be narcissists, but the ones who take the time to gain the attention of the people around can be narcissists. These are kids who cannot take losses sportingly.

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